Stages of life and sorrow of stage four to parents.

Stage one:

Thank you, mother, for giving birth to us. You have suffered a lot for our sake. Thank you, father and mother, for caring for us dearly. During our early years, we were innocent and unaware of what is good and bad. We engaged in nonsense and mischievous activities. Our childhood days were spent with our father, mother, and siblings. We fought with each other, played together, and ate together. I have fond memories of my childhood days with my siblings. We would go to school together and come back home for lunch. We are aware of the hard work our father and mother put in for us. Thank you, sister, for helping our father and mother. We will never forget you as our second parent. Thank you, Ana.

Stage two:

This is the stage when we are in secondary school. Our parents worked tirelessly and saved for us. They provided us with new clothes. They never thought of buying new clothes for themselves, wearing torn ones instead, just so we wouldn't feel shy in front of our friends. Thank you, Apa, Ama, and sister. Your good deeds towards us are always in our minds. We love you, Apa, Ama, and Ana.

Stage three:

This is the stage when we are in college. It is the stage where we are about to start earning after completing our education. Our parents have high expectations because they have endured many years for us. Finally, we completed college, and the story of stage four is different.

Stage four:

We are now independent. Our parents need our help. Are we helping them? It is disheartening to realize that our elderly parents are still suffering while their children are independent. We are sorry; we are still unable to assist you. It is indeed a great shame for siblings like us.

To my friends, please help your parents. They are like gods to us. They mean everything to us.

Lastly, but not the least, my only prayer is for my Apa and Ama to have good health and always be happy. I will lend my helping hand soon. May all the parents on Earth be happy and receive support from their sons and daughters.

A simple Gratitude Letter to my dad and mom

With father and mother of sealed fate.

Dear Apa and Ama,

This is your son, Jigme Zangpo, writing to express gratitude for having done many meritorious things for me.

I feel great when I am near my parents. The happiest moment was when they came to Phuntsholing last time and celebrated the Meeting of the Nine Evils (ngenpa guzom) at Threma Lhakhang together with the family. Thank you, dad and mom, for coming all the way to meet us.

I know that more than anyone, I know the love and care they need at this stage. I assure you, I will never let you feel upset with your son.

I am very much thankful to have two parents that will, paradoxically, scold me in a loving way. No one knows you better than your parents. They know how to talk to you, give you the right advice, and tell you not to make the mistakes they made. 

I am thankful to have two parents that will support me in anything I do. 

Basically, I’m thankful for having two loving and supportive people who I will always love with all of my heart.

Thank you apa and ama for nurturing me. It is owing to your effort that I can stand in front of a crowd proudly.

And Kadrinche for coming back from Thimphu to celebrate ChungNgepa Losar at Phuntsholing.

With love and affection,

Your son

Second version of Sanoem ma wa meser.

            

In continuation of article of Opinion in Kuensel dated 9^th November 2013, I have my say regarding the people of Shingkhar Lauri believe themselves as “Senoem ma wa meser”. They will believe again for few years.

Indeed people are purely humble and obey whatever the head says. They afraid of going against head even they are right. The word Sir is lavishly used in our village to addressed outsider ranging from low post till the high post. I am happy that the good tradition like respecting outsider and within ourselves are prevails. But sometime the title sir is misusing by some people to do one more time fooling the innocent people.

If we are to make a verbal agreement from the meeting of these people, then the agreement outcome will always agree. They are innocent. Innocent because they are illiterate and always believe what their head say. So, head should always take an extra cautious when taking to these people or trying convey something to them. Otherwise they will believe whatever you say. 

I believe there are few potential people back at the village and people of this village in other place, who can bring a development to community by coordinating development activity ethically and morally. It will only true, if and only if these people work with pure mind. Pure mind indicate the free of corruptions and following the certain rules from the reflected rules of Country.

Shingkhar lauri is only place in Bhutan as stated in Dasho’s opinion, he also didn’t forget to say its only place with no connectivity of road and electricity. It’s not that government did nothing to Shingkhar Lauri. They had done many things. The farm road had started clearing a decade ago and electricity a 2 years ago. Then, should we called that the slow progress in the system because of “Sonoem ma wa me ser” reside in this Geog. The term “Sonoem ma wa me ser” shouldn’t be an answer for all obstacles coming along.

Who are the responsible for let the people to say we are the “Sanoem Cho wa me ser”?  Who are the responsible to do always the term “So noem ma wa me ser”? Is the innocent people themselves? Or Local leaders? Or NA member and NC’s responsible? Or Dasho Dzongda and Dasho Dungpa’s responsible?

Its collective responsible but the higher authority has capable of shouldering a core responsible, so they will.

To whom we should blame if the progress work are not doing and is not progressing at acceptable rate. To common people? To local leaders? To MP and NC? Or to dasho Dungpa and Dasho Dzongda? Again it’s everybody’s failures but particularly the higher authority’s failures.

Should I believe Shingkhar lauri a remotest than any of Geog in Bhutan before a decade ago? Certainly my quick response is No. Laya, Lingshi, merak, sakteng and many more village in Zhemgang are more remote than Shingkahr Lauri. We are aware that Merak and Sakteng is already connected by Road and Electricity. Being more remote than ours, connecting everything road and electricity before than ours is few point to be analyzed. What is going on in Jomotshang Dungkhag particularly Lauri geog? Is it because of near boader of Assam and Arunachal Pradesh? Nothing to do with boarder.  So, the authority should look the matter seriously?

Now I feel Jomotshangkha Dungkhag is neglected place because developmental activities are never progress at given period and no action are taking place for the failure.

Trend was introduced. Our Annual Tshechu in our village is our enjoyment.

We contribute in our small way to our society.

An annual tshechu for my village is schedule on 8^th, 9^th and 10^th of 10^th month of Bhutanese calendar. If the tshechu is to be conducted on 10^th month of Bhutanese calendar we the students cannot attend Tshechu as we are still in the school but our Lama Rinpoche (Buli Trulku) and the coordinators of Tshechu postpone the date of tshechu one month behind so that we the student can witness the Tshechu. Witnessing the Tshechu itself will purify our sin as great master said. We are very fortunate to have an opportunity to witness the Tshechu.

It was in the year 2009, when I was in class 11, the significant changes to our tshechu was introduced. During the tshechu time, the cultural show in between the Tshechu dance was performed by group of student of our villages. Under the coordinators of Ata Pema Wangchuck, Ata Yonten Chojay and Khotken Dorji Dubu (all three of them were the student of ILCS, Institute of Language and Cultural Studies) and the members including myself , Khotken Pema Dorji, Khotken Sonam Yeshi, Ata Wangdi Phuntsho, Khotken Lobzang, Charo Kinga, Charo Karma Wangda (Dungmanma Village) and Ata Sonam Wangchuk performed the cultural part. The most memorable song and the dance among we performed was the Lopen Phagpa Jutshen Jamyang Khen.  The song and the step of the dance are still fresh in my mind. Reflecting back the memorable event of 2009, an annual Tshechu of my village really touching till the bottom of my heart. It was the good trend that our cultural program coordinators of 2009 has ever introduced.

Unfortunately in the year 2010, due to unavoidable circumstance an Annual Tshechu couldn’t postponed to 11^th month of Bhutanese’s calendar. We couldn’t witness the Tshechu.

The coordinators ata Tashi Dorji,Yeshi Norbu and Pema Dorji coordinate the cultural parts during an Annual Tshechu of year 2011. Looking in to the memories of 2011, the enjoyment we had like the funny part, interesting part and irritating parts all together make me to say “we did that and waiting for our juniors to follow the trend”.

 

2011

Now it was my turn to coordinate in the year 2012, during an Annual Tshechu. All the members for the year 2012 was young. My brother Gom Dorji, Charo Kinga Dorji and Charo Chaten help me in coordinating an events. Let the members be young but the coordination is more important. I could finally succeed my part in coordinating the cultural event of 2012. It was my achievement owing to my hardship and dedication towards the works. The success of that event will be part of my memory in my life.

 

2012

I dream if above memories rebound back so that I can once more experience the enjoyment memories. It is sad to know that the memories can no way rebound back. If I think beyond the thinking as member and coordinator of cultural part during tshechu, I have few thought coming on the way of sorrow path. I have already seen the first coordinator couldn’t attend second time and second coordinator couldn’t third time. What it signified? The only answer could be the impermanence of life and the busy of once life. When one is getting older and older, he or she cannot continue what he or she has done in previous year. I am feeling deeply sad to know I am following their path.

Finally, let me never forget to thank our Lama Rinpoche, Khenpo Rinpoche, and peoples of village for giving us a platform to perform like cultural show.

 Let our peoples be always happy and prosperity always follow them and long live our Eminence The Buli Trulku Rinpoche and Khenpo Rinpoche. 

from left Buli Trulku and Khenpo.